Surprise! If You're Obese, It's Bad.

    I'm just going to put this out there. Being fat is bad. Yes, I said it. If you find yourself triggered, and needing to yell obscenities at me for my hateful body shaming, go right ahead. But it will not change the fact that I'm right. While every person obviously needs a certain amount of fat to live, it has been known for a very long that too much body fat is not only a bad thing but it can be deadly. Medical science tells us that there are a host of health problems that are made worse by, or are directly caused by being too fat. Our own Department of Health and Human Services runs down a truly staggering list:

        Heart Disease,   High Blood Pressure,   Type 2 Diabetes,   Abnormal Blood         Fats,   Metabolic Syndrome,   Cancer,   Osteoarthritis,   Sleep Apnea

        Obesity Hypoventilation Syndrome,   Reproductive Problems   And                     Gallstones 

They also go on to report on the rise of these conditions in children, where they use to be almost unheard of. In fact, the number of children who are obese in the US has tripled in the last thirty years. Tripled! They don't even mention all the joint problems that are caused. But knee and hip replacements are also on the rise, due to the fact that people's joints can't handle the weight and just give out. 

    Yikes! So knowing all of this there is no way that anyone would be okay with being overweight, right? People would be active in their pursuit of a healthy body weight through diet and exercise, right? And no one would be supportive of friends and family becoming so overweight that their health become a real concern, right? Wrong. A very sad, dangerous, obnoxious, and enragingly hypocritical movement has been sweeping the US (and other western nations) for a few years now. It's called Body Positivity. It sounds reasonable enough. The whole idea seems to be that people should not hold themselves to impossible beauty standards and love the person they are, as they are. But, that is not at all what the body positivity crowd is really all about. What they really want is to let the laziest and most gluttonously out of control among us off the hook. They actually push the (totally nonsensical) idea that not only is big beautiful but that it's also healthy and anyone who says otherwise is branded as a "fat-shamer". But big is neither beautiful or healthy, and both science and human evolution tell us so. 

    We've already gone over medical science's reason's why packing'em on is maybe not the best idea. You do remember the list, don't you? But what about evolution? If the only thing that happened to you when you plumped up was that you became unhealthy, I guess that would be your own problem. But something else happens. You become pretty darn repulsive to the opposite sex. Yeah. These gigantic people are having a Hell of a time getting dates, much less marriage proposals. As you might imagine, the porkiest among us aren't super happy about this. But doing something about it like, I dunno, dieting, and exercising are totally out of the question. Why? Because that would mean actually admitting that they are the cause of their own problems and then taking responsibility for them in the form of actions. They can't even begin to comprehend doing that. So instead they have decided to live is a bizarro world and to force their delusional self-love on the rest of us. Demonizing anyone who dares to speak the reality that they are, well, kinda gross. This is the reason that our body-positive friends keep pushing their mindless mantra on us all. They are hoping to somehow trick us into believing something that our own biology tells us is wrong. Say it with me now "big is beautiful, big is beautiful, big is beautiful". But it's not working.

    Men and women are both programmed by nature to look for certain physical attributes in the opposite sex. This is a biological fact. Men want a woman with a small waist and a chest and hips that form and hourglass shape. This shows her to be healthy and able to birth healthy children. Which is a good thing. Women look for a man with a narrow waist, broad shoulders, and strong arms and legs. This shows that he can be a provider and a protector for her and their children. Also a good thing. Some people (mostly feminists) lose their minds over this. They just can't stand the idea that looks might count for something. They also can't seem to understand the fact that their outrage is of no importance to nature. So they continue their endless and losing battle to push woman (and it's almost always women. The fems don't much care if men are made to feel bad) such as Tess Holliday, Ashley Graham, and others on a very unwilling audience, as examples of "real" women who are normal and beautiful. The idea that beauty is in the eye of the beholder is no longer acceptable. The warriors of the body positivity movement take no prisoners. You are not allowed to have your own opinion as to what is, or is not attractive. You MUST whole heartedly agree that they ARE beautiful. Or else. 

    The "or else" comes in the form of constant bombardment. Television, movies, magazines and the internet have all jumped on the BP bandwagon. Even Sports Illustrated couldn't help themselves and put a plus-sized model on the cover of their yearly swimsuit issue. That's right. A woman who is in arguably bad physical shape was on the cover of a sports magazine in a bikini. All for the purpose of appeasing the BP Gestapo. After all, a magazine that glorifies the ideal female form would be at the top of their target list. They already went after fitness and beauty companies like Protein World with horrifying results (can you say bomb threat). So SI played it off like they loved it. I'm sure all the men who looked forward to that issue were just jumping for joy with excitement too, huh? I doubt it. The truth is that SI published three different covers, the first time they've ever done that by the way, and the one with the thin model was the best liked. I for one think that SI knew the cover wasn't going to be a big seller, so they hedged their bets with a traditional model as well. Look, the media can do whatever they want too. But it would seem that the BP devotees don't appreciate the hypocrisy of pushing their preferences while simultaneously raging against others rights to do the same. 

    Possibly the most double talking they do, though, has to do with child obesity vs. body positivity. On the one hand, we have women who are morbidly obese taking photos of themselves in all states of undress and putting them on the internet to see be objected too. On the other hand, American school children are having their lunches whittled down to almost nothing and being sent home with report cards on their body mass index. They are being told (and punished) that they are too fat, all while also being told that there is nothing wrong with being fat and that self-acceptance is all that's important. Is it any wonder that children today seem more confused and depressed than ever before? The mixed messages they get on almost every topic are enough to spin the head of even the most well-adjusted adults, much less impressionable children. 

    I will end by saying that this is not about claiming that being fat makes you a bad person. I confess that I myself need to lose a few. Even while I wrote this I had a couple donuts. But I will not blame anyone else for my doing so. I will also try hard to eat right (most of the time) and exercise. What it's really about the fact that there is a good range and a bad range as far as body fat goes. People should know their good range and try to get there. A lot (maybe even most) of people will fall short. We can't all be Sports Illustrated cover models. Okay, bad example. But telling ourselves that no matter how far we go into the bad range, that we are still doing an amazing job is just delusional. Seeing what is real is the only way to move in the right direction. And harshly judging society at large (pun) for not going along with that delusion is just plain wrong. Being mature enough to take truthful stock of where you are, and then making real changes that make you a better person. Now that's positivity. Body, mind and soul. 


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How Feminism Hurts Everyone And Everything.

    If you are a woman in today's America, there's a good chance you have been lead to believe that feminism is a wonderful thing that has brought only good things into the lives of you and all the ladies you know. After all, women today are told that they can achieve anything they want too. You can be successful in every aspect of your life. Relationships, family, careers, you name it and it can be yours. It's a bit like an infomercial from the 90's, or some cheesy self-help book. But wait, there's more! The sky's the limit. If you believe it, you can be it. 

    Here's the problem. It's all total crap. The truth is that it's hard to find even one thing that is wrong with America today, or indeed the world, that hasn't been directly caused or made much worse by the scourge that is third wave feminism. I am talking about third wave feminism specifically. There aren't any anti-feminists out there who are trying to take away voting rights, land ownership or access to education. So you can unclench your intestines. This is about the loud, angry, selfish, scary, ugly monsters who are the children of today's feminist movement. So what is it that is so bad about today's feminism? In truth, there are way too many societal negatives to get into here. So I will touch on just a few of them. How feminists will not rest until all women are basically turned into men, how men are being turned into evil rape monsters (and somehow also into total pansy asses), and how young girls and boys are being tricked into denying their own instincts about their differences (scarring them for life in the process). So this should be fun. Here we go!

    If you look up the word feminism, it's all about women. Women's rights, equality for women. Women, women, women. So it's a bit odd that third wave feminism is thoroughly anti-woman. Everything that is inherent to the feminine nature is not only frowned upon and hatefully judged but also aggressively railed against. Women are programmed by nature to have certain inherent skills and the personal desires that go along with them. Finding a man who is strong in both body and character, to marry and raise a family with, is chief among them. But not to the modern feminist movement. They will have you believe that women who have these desires are really being held down by the nebulous, yet profoundly evil patriarchy. That's right. Whenever you feel attracted to a physically strong man, or that you might (God forbid) want to stay home and raise your own children, you are in fact being forced to feel those things by, I dunno, a council of men in black hoods somewhere. Nevermind that these feelings are supported by biology and the evidence of all of human evolution. According to the fems, strong, empowered and independent woman don't need men at all and wanting a family ( as opposed to a job in astrophysics ) is just a sign that you are a weak willed gender traitor. They also want it universally excepted that woman can be just as physically strong as men. Take the never-ending push to force female superheroes on us. That's right, girls, don't pay any attention to the fact that you are 5'3 and maybe weigh a buck fifteen. You can definitely kick the crap out of those four big beefy guys that want to do you harm. No sweat.  Right? Sorry, but not right. The reality is that if it weren't totally choreographed, she'd get killed. But according to our friends in the overweight, buzz cutted feminist army, women should all aspire to be career driven, childless, husbandless, beefed up ass-kickers with out a shread of femininity to be found. If that sounds to you like someone that's not a woman at all, well, you're not alone. 

    Yea! Men are great! If all the fembots want us to look like men, act like men and basicaly be men, that must mean they really like men. Right? Wrong! If there is anything that those hairy beasts hate more than women who actually want to be normal women, it's men. Men are enemy number one. Men are everything that a femininity hateing feminist wishes she could be. But they can't be, so what do they do? They try to beat the masculinity right out of them. Make them into whiney, whimpy, pathetic losers. Sadley, they're doing a pretty darn good job. Everywhere you look are dickless pajama boys who wouldn't know how to be manly if a bull dyke gave them personal lessons. But, even while they busy themselves turning America's men into spineless losers who would sooner run away from a pretty girl than talk to her, they endlessly push the totaly false idea of "rape culture". The double speak here is really something to behold. Men are simultaneously weak willyed, sandal wearing momma's boys who cower at the very sight of any pink haired she-whale, but they are also sex driven monsters who will assault you as every opportunity.  Hmm, seems unlikely. But the unlikeliness of it has not stopped the feminist horde from pushing this lie all over America's college campuses with the undying help of the media at large. The more our nation's men become hung out to dry as the world's next great evil, the farther they wrap themselves in the deep v-necked shirts and tie-dyed scarves of appeasement. The feminazis will stop at nothing to make sure that every last man has a deep seeded self-hatred that is fostered from his earliest memory. 

    That brings up to the sweet, cherubs that are today's youth. As these little children go off to their first days of pre school, they have no idea that what they are starting is a long and predetermined road of gender and equality indoctrination. No Billy, you don't really want to play cops and robbers, maybe you want to play house with Justin and Sam while Jill and Becky build a fort. From almost day one they are taught that the feelings and instincts they have as to how to behave and what to like are totally wrong. The girls are pulled aways from the dolls and crayons, even if that is what they want to do, all in the name of teaching them that they can do whatever that want to. The irony of this seems to be lost on all the early childhood majors who are so proud of the role they are playing on the front lines of feminist reform. The boys, on the other hand, are told quite the opposite. They most definitely can not do whatever they want. They may want to play with trucks or run around the playground in a loud and aggressive game of war. But no, they are made to understand that those desires are bad and should be resisted. They should be nice, sensitive boys. Which leads them, in a straight line, right into store call Scarf Heaven. Whether such a store actually exists, I have no idea. But, you get the point. 

    Men and women are no long allowed to be men and women. Young and old alike are being strong-armed into marching lock step to the never ending drum beat that is modern day feminism. It takes away everything that is good and right about the genders and their complementary differences and changes them around so much that people aren't sure what they want, how to act or even who they are. If that doesn't hurt everyone and everything, I don't know what does. 


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For All Who Serve.

    Today is Armed Forces Day. Many Americans will go onto social media and say thank you to all our men and women who are, or have served in our nation's armed forces. I'm sure that for many of those people, their thanks will be sincere. But I also know that the vast majority of them have no idea what is really sacrificed on their behalf. 

    The truth is that our citizenry's current ignorance to the realities of the war fighting business is a testament to the amazing success of our nation's fighting force. In other parts of the world were bombings and house to house street fights are a daily happening, the United States has the luxury of being shocked whenever a couple of nutcases decide so go on a rampage. The country felt a collective punch to the gut after the Boston Marathon bombing. But in places like Iraq, Syria or just about anywhere in Africa, that would barely have warranted a front page mention. We are safer in America than just about anywhere in the world. And that didn't just happen. Our military has kept this kind of evil out of the sights, and out of  the minds, of most of the American populous. But that doesn't mean it isn't there. Our guys confront it every day so that we may continue to trick ourselves into believing it can never touch us. But that belief comes at a cost. And that cost never fails to get paid.  In every state in our union, there are national cemeteries. Some are so large that when you're there, you can't see past the headstones. There are men and women buried there from every conflict this nation has every engaged in. And I invite anyone to not feel something when you see the ages of so many of our heroes when they died. There are also almost 130,00 Americans buried overseas. The last resting places of our boys who never had a chance to come home. For those older veterans who did come home, the "lucky ones", the pain they feel as the years go by, if anything, gets stronger. When they were nineteen and lost their buddies, the loss was a personal one. But the older they get, they realize more and more just how much their friends gave up. Every milestone in their lives brings with it the reminder of just how much their friends never got to have. 

    For our younger veterans the situation, if possible, if even worse. They come home to the realization that they have nothing in common with most of their own generation. They struggle to have things to talk about when they try to get jobs in the civilian world, and going back to school often brings bitterness and real anger. Seeing people your own age who have never lived a single day for others, but who willing tell anyone who will listen all about how the world "really is", is nauseatingly and infuriating. But they are nothing compared to the professors. Some guy shoving his world view done their troat. Making them out as evil murderers. Some just can't stand it, so they drop out. Being there is just too hard. And who can blame them?

    It may come as no surprise that many of them, then chose to go into jobs in emergency response. Police, Fire Fighters, or EMT/Paramedics.  They just can't help it. They are good people who feel a real need to help others. The comradery they get in these fields is also the same as when they were in the military. They are all on the same team, working together and looking out for each other. Sadly, however in these jobs (or callings really) our vets are met with an almost unending stream of ungratefulness, hatred and real danger. The risks they take aren't understood or, in some cases even cared about, by the vast majority of the population. They are seen as too fast to tackle or pull their guns. But these guys know how fast a situation can go from just fine to you or your partner are dead. Moments. Mere moments. They know it because they have lived it. So is it really any wonder that they chose to be better safe than sorry? Not really. They leave their homes and families and throw themselves headfirst into the worst situations imaginable, every day. Day after day. For the people they are helping, it's the worst day of their lives. But the responders have already been to four or five situations just like it in that day alone. The stress they are under in unimaginable for most people. 

    A lot of our vets, regardless of age or conflict are also suffering from the invisible injuries of war. Post Traumatic Stress is not a disorder as so many people believe, but a real injury. An injury that only happened because of their selfless willingness to do what only 1% of our population is willing to do. They should be heralded as heroes and given every help at healing that they need. Yet so many feel isolated and stigmatized for their symptoms. Loud noises and large crowds can cause them to panic. The fear they feel is compounded by the judgment and misunderstanding by many of the people around them. They feel they should be able to handle it and that it is a mark of weakness that they can't. As a result, many retreat into themselves and never ask for the help they need. This needs to stop. They should be met with nothing but our grateful willingness to help. Their wounds were incurred in our service and are nothing to be ashamed of. 

    Any gratitude for our current or former veterans is not complete without a mention of the military family. The support given to our service members by their families is often overlooked, but their sacrifices are just as life changing. Spouses and children deal with separation, fear, and loss. They carry the burden of helping to support their loved ones through the emotional and sometimes physical wounds they come home with. They deal daily with the costs of service. For them, it is a never ending battle. 

    So what's the point? The point is that if you are a beneficiary of our nation's veterans or first responders ( that's all of you ), you have an obligation to educate yourselves on the struggles they go through, and real sacrifices they give for you. And don't just say thank you on holidays. Say it everyday. They've earned it! And believe it or not, a simple and sincere thank you is all they ever want. Pretty amazing, right? 

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P.S. If you are suffering from a PTS injury, please seek help. The invictusgamesfoundation.org is a great place to start, especially if you like sports. And the bushcenter.org (under resources, programs and issues, then military service initiative )

Trigger Warning! Transgenderism Is Not A Real Thing. And You're Cruel To Say It Is.

Note: I am not a doctor. This article is an opinion and not a medical diagnosis. If you feel you are suffering from a gender identity problem. Read the links below and seek medical treatment.     

    I really can't pinpoint the day when it was decided that proclaiming yourself not to be your born gender was a good thing. I have a few memories of hearing about such a thing as a child. But it was far from something that was always on tv and in the news, being talking about at all, much less celebrated. But the times seem to have changed just as much as some people's gender identity. Even though only 0.03% of the population claim to have this issue. Now, thanks in part to people like Bruce (Caitlyn) Jenner, I can't get away from it. We have been told that these people are something called Transgender. That they were quite literally born into the wrong gendered body. In the case of Bruce, that he is in fact, a she. That by "transitioning", they will become their "authentic selves" and begin "living their truth". That they will be happy for the first time in their lives. Great, right? 

    But if you are confused by this, you are not alone. To most people the idea doesn't quite add up. How can a person be in the "wrong" body? You don't want anyone to be unhappy. But you just can't seem to understand it. Here again, the trusty media lets us know how to think. And it's that questioning the validity of transgenderism at all is bigoted and hateful. So, there you go. It's real, period. You transphobe! But wait, shockingly that's not the whole story. There's a lot more to it that the PC police and our dear friends, the social justice warriors aren't telling you. The real truth is that transgenderism is not actually a real thing at all. And that by going along with it, we are actually hurting the people that are suffering from the mental illness of Gender Dysphoric Disorder. 

    If you've never heard of Gender Dysphoria, I'm not surprised. It's not a term that is used very often. The LGBTQAIIXYZ7 people don't even want it mentioned. But what it is, is the condition of feeling one's emotional and psychological identity as male or female to be opposite to one's biological sex. That you, in fact, feel that you are not in the right body, when you really are. It is a mental illness, not a physical one. So just as with other mental illnesses, going along with it, even if it seems to make the afflicted feel better in the moment, is the wrong thing to do. They will not get better, and the long-term results could be disastrous. 

    Most people understand that when it comes to mental illness, changing the outside will not fix the inside. Yet when it comes to people that believe themselves to be trans, this it exactly what they do in order to seek happiness. In the case of Bruce, he grew out his hair, started wearing women's clothes and make-up, he even takes female hormones and had surgery to his face, neck and chest. But this is little more than an expensive game of dress up. He has not become a woman at all. He is every bit the biological man he ever was. As are all people who make the choice to "transition". It is interesting to point out that Bruce, like a lot of people suffering from GDD, has chosen not to have full gender reassignment surgery. Which is a good thing because studies show that around ten years after their transition, these people start to have serious mental problems stemming from the regret they feel that it leads to a more than twenty-fold higher suicide rate than the average non-trans population. For those who do have the full surgery, the regrets are even worse. The realization that they have made a mistake that can never be fixed is overwhelming. They can stop the hormones, and dress the way they used too. But they will never be the same again. Which is the exact reason why telling someone that it's wonderful that they make these changes in the first place, is so wrong. The mentally sane have a responsibility to help those who are struggling, not push them toward destroying themselves. 

    Some good examples of this are the disorders of Anorexia Nervosa and Body Dysmorphic Disorder. People who suffer some these illnesses, just as with sufferers of GDD have a totally skewed view of themselves. A sufferer of Anorexia will literally believe that they are fat when in fact they are close to dead due to malnutrition. They can look like a skeleton and still "see" fat. Should they be told by friends and family that they are right? That they should "live their truth"? That they could use to lose a few? Of course not! They need help. Even if they don't want it. Those with BDD believe that they are physically hideous. They will diet and exercise to dangerous levels. They will spend, in some cases, millions of dollars on plastic surgeries that they are never happy with. They will hide themselves away from people to the point of becoming total recluses. This disorder, if untreated, can often lead to severe anxiety, depression and suicide. All of which were the case for one of it's most famous sufferers, Michael Jackson. Jackson used his vast wealth to indulge his illness and it lead to his facial disfigurement and ultimate death from a drug overdose at the age of just fifty years old. 

  Many say that it is just hate speech. That it is bigoted and cruel to "deny a person's true self". But in reality, they are hurt far more by our cultures growing willingness to be a joyful party to their delusion. Children are having their puberty stopped. Schools are teaching that there are many different genders. That you can just choose the one you like, and change your mind later if you feel like it. In a society were feeling are king, truth has no place if it makes you unhappy. I shutter to think of all the children who will grow up having no idea who they are. The road we are on is a dangerous one that is already being lined with the casualties of the feelings revolution.  

    But as with all roads, we can turn around. We can speak the truth. We can share reality with the people who need it most. Our friends, families, children and those who are currently in the grips of this terrible illness. With love and kindness, we can help them come back to who they really are. Only then can they live in their happy, authentic truth.

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www.wsj.com/articles/paul-mchugh-transgender-surgery-isnt-the-solution 

www.sexchangeregret.com 

You Can't Steal a Culture, Stupid.

       Some of the greatest things I remember about being a kid are actually things that I don't remember at all. The world didn't have the PC police running around all the time trying to put us all in PC jail. People were just people and everyone pretty much got along. Even us kids were left alone to just be kids. Playing dress-up has been a childhood staple for generations. So like millions of other kids, my friends and I would play for hours as Pirates, Indian Princesses, cowboys in the old west, you name it. But as hard as I try, I can't seem to remember anyone ever telling us that we were stealing anyone's culture in the process. Which is a good thing, because I'm pretty sure we wouldn't have understood what the Hell they were talking about. How can you steal a culture?



        So fast forward to good old 2016, and I find myself hearing a phrase quite a bit that I don't remember hearing before. What's that you ask? Cultural Appropriation. It seems that a whole lot of whiney, cry baby, precious dew drops lose their collective minds over it. What is Cultural Appropriation anyway? If so many people are upset over it, it must be really bad! Right? It's the adoption or use of elements of one culture by members of a different culture. Or so I'm told. What? Like if your kids want to dress up like Cowboys and Indians for Halloween (don't even get me started on Halloween), they are in fact stealing the culture of Native Americans. Not the Cowboys? No, no one cares about white people, silly. In fact, it looks like the only people who can be guilty of cultural appropriation are white people. In fact, if you ask these sniveling PC blobs they will tell you that the only culture white people have is a culture of oppression.



        So there you have it. The basic idea is that the evil whites are stealing all the cultures of the world and just being generally careless and insensitive with them. But here's the thing, that's total crap. You can't steal a culture. Culture is not a tangible thing. It can't be touched or held. If I own a television and someone brakes into my house and steals it, it's gone. I don't have it anymore. But if I am Mexican and some white family down the street decides to throw a Cinco De Mayo party, do I lose my Mexicanness? Of course not! What if a little white girl wants to get her hair in braids because she likes her black friend's hair and wants to be like her's? Does her friend somehow lose her blackness? I know, you think that's madness. But these things are really happening. Last year a young white girl had her hair braided and received an onslaught of hateful responses from people who wouldn't know something really offensive if it came up and ripped their chemically straightened weaves off . In the end, she issued an apology. An apology for her hair do! These idiots (mostly college students) have nothing better to do than be professional victims. When there is no real victimization going on, they make something up. Agreeing with them, or worse yet apologizing, only proves to them that they can get away with it. So don't do it!



        Long story short. If you want to throw a toga party, do it. If you want to host an Indian food night at your office, do it. And if you want to have braids or dreadlocks, don't let the black lady with straightened and dyed blond hair tell you, you can't! Imitation is the highest form of flattery. So the next time someone brings up cultural appropriation, look them in the eyes and say, you can't steal a culture, stupid.





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A Case For Being Judgmental.

        Have you ever heard someone say "far be it for me to judge"? Or "who am I to judge"? Or even "it's not good to judge"? I have. I hear it all the damn time. The last thing anyone wants is to be seen as is judgmental. So these sayings are pulled out on a regular basis in case there's any chance that that might happen.  They sound reasonable enough. No one ever wants to hurt someone else's feelings, right? And who among us has never done something that we are not proud of? I get it. It started out as a way of saying, "it's okay, nobody's perfect". A nice way to comfort someone whose made a mistake that anyone could have made.  But here's the problem. It has morphed into an unholy, get out of jail free card. A card that is pulled out and shoved in the face of anyone who has the nerve to point out others, who are not living up to the standards of a civilized society. Because, for some reason, being judgmental has become a cardinal sin. So people have become truely afraid that it could be used on them. 

       But, the truth is that being judgmental is not only normal ( you do it countless times a day, whether you want to admit it or not ), but it's good. In fact, it's great. It's one of human kind's greatest super powers. Did I lose you at super powers? I'm not talking about seeing through walls or leaping tall buildings. I am talking about the single most important ability we have. The skill that enabled humankind to evolve into the most successful being to ever walk this earth. Being a Judgy McJudgerson. 

      With that said, we all need to embrace our inner Mr. or Ms. McJudgerson. So this is a call to every person who has been a closet judger. Thinking all the time how badly you want to shut those snotty kids up because their parents are not willing (or too stupid) to do so. How every other woman you see should be asked if, and how much, she charges by the hour. That if you see one more man's butt crack, you should be given an honorary doctorate in proctology. And I could write a novel on all the swearing I hear! But, who are you to judge? You ask yourself, almost involentarily.  A person living in this world, that's who! You have a right to voice your disgust with the direction of the overall behavior in today's America. There was a time when it was known that there could be a total societal shunning for those who couldn't seem to get their crap together. The mere threat used to do the job for most people. And for the ones that it didn't? The consequences were often swift and lasting. For a very long time, this social pressure was a powerful behavioral guide. The standards were clear, and people new what was expected of them. But now, the threat is no longer enough. Regular people are unwilling to risk being labled as judgmental jerks. The result?  It's Thunderdome out there. 

      I tried to be a nice person. You know, go along to get along. And I'm sure that many of you have done the same thing. I wouldn't want to cause a scene after all. It's wouldn't be worth it. Or at least that's what I used to think. But the balance has shifted. The polite, thoughtful people of this country are being outnumbered by those who are being allowed to float through life as mindless imbeciles. Selfish jackasses that seem to never have heard the word NO. Which brings we to who's at fault. I don't really like the word fault here, because these vacuous morons are clearly making their own choices. But the truth is, it's us. Damn it, it is us! We are the Dr. Frankensteins, and these masses of human garbage are our monstrous creations. We have raised a generation of people who never give a thought as to how their behavior is affecting others. And when they are confronted, do they realize their mistakes and apologize? What do you think? Like bratty little children, they demand to know who they Hell YOU are? How dare YOU question these precious little dew drops right to be as revolting a display of sub-humanity as they wish? So they rule by fear.  As the overwhelmed mother gives the screaming child a cookie just to shut them up, we too choose the path of least resistance. We get angry, we grit our teeth, then we look the other way and we walk off. 

      But no more. As the creators of this mess, we too must except the task to cleaning it up. We must reset our brains back to what is right. Judgment is healthy and good. Repeat that to yourselves a few time so it really sticks.  It is not us who are wrong for having judgments. It is those who do so many things that deserve to be judged, who are in the wrong.  Teach your children not to fear the judgments they feel bubbling up inside themselves. Those are ofton warnings that should be listened too.  Be examples of what is moral and good, and point out to them these dregs of humanity, so that they will know how NOT to be. Say what needs to be said, so that people will ( some, for the first time ) hear what they have so desperately needed to hear.  It is not untrue to say, you are part of the solution or you are part of the problem.  I for one, will be part of the solution. 

VOH

As a side note, there are actual crazy people out there. So when speaking the truth, use good judgment. See what I did there?